I love people. I am so socially dependent on personal interaction that if on a day off from work, if I don’t meet with friends I actually get bored and depressed. I love talking to people, listening to them and care for their issues.
However people are prone to change. People fall in and out of love. Your best friend may not be comfortable sharing with you something that may change his/her image in your mind.
So people are basically subject to change of emotions and attitudes/moods. They are also manipulative when they know how you react to specific words or actions.
I have had much heartache and try to see things now in a detached way (it’s not easy). Detachment defeats my personal aim of togetherness, companionship and compassion.
So then I feel frustrated when people are dishonest while I would have accepted their choice and only wish they didn’t try to cheat the friendship through inconsequential albeit matters affecting us both.
The best way to deal with it is to take stock of how close you wished to be and how it exists now. Do you wish to care for a crooked tail that shows no sign of mending its ways?
If the person is special you could try a dialogue and express your concern and desire for a truthful relationship. Also nobody likes someone who frets over every little detail and nitpicks information given to them.
If the person is not trustworthy anymore, try and understand this character and acceptance of his/her ill ways will give you peace of mind because IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT.
Friends or Family can only be suggested to do something. You can’t force your will and expect their love in return. You want them to learn and grow and this takes time and patience.
Make sure you take a few slow deep breaths before confronting a lie. Don’t get angry, instead communicate your dislike and disappointment in a calm manner and tell them it hurts when they try and play you for a fool.
As for Forgiveness that’s the easiest thing in the world when you are in Love.
Also in relationships, keep the past in the past. Don’t ever bring up past mistakes to point them out and increase your score. Love and Friendship is about looking forward to the relationship.